Get Your Colours Right for Dating Success

By our self-help expert and dating coach Dr Pam Spurr

In my new book on dating I’ve covered how the colours you wear say so much about your personality when you go on a date.

Of course every fashionista knows how colour can make a killer impact, but for the rest of us it can be a mystery. 

We know the basics like if you want someone to notice you then definitely wear red. But something like black can be either sexy and sensual or conservative.

In my new dating guide I mention how when certain colours work better – or worse – at creating attraction and sexual chemistry. So don’t forget you definitely impact with colour. The laws of attraction are influenced by many factors including the shades you wear. 

But what about how colours can impact on your an all-important first date? Depending on the type of attention you want, plus thinking about the signals you want to give off, I’ve got some tips for you.

Here’s a quick breakdown to think about when you’re getting ready for that nerve-wracking night with someone new:

RED shades: Recent relationship research has confirmed it – if you’re a ‘lady in red’ you’re more likely to bag a hot date.  On the whole you’ll attract men with high energy as well as high libidos and men who like strong women.

GREEN shades: Funny enough green is also a popular colour with men. Men see it as down to earth. It reflects a genuine personality but also passion because it’s the colour we associate with nature. 

BLACK: Black is actually versatile. And wearing black can work either way – a LBD increases attention and suggests sexiness and sophistication. But if you wear a black pullover it suggests you’re serious-minded. You’re likely to attract a serious guy.

PINK shades: Guys assume you’re feminine and flirty. But on the downside they might also think you’re a bit of a ‘princess’ wanting your way. Remember though, a dazzling hot pink suggests you’re a bit of a sex kitten.

WHITE: Men will probably assume you’re someone who likes everything ‘just so’ with a perfectionist streak. If they like everything just so they’ll find this attractive.

BLUE shades: Different shades of blue give off different signals. For example, navy looks more serious. And unless it’s in a really trendy style, men say it comes across as a bit boring. A no-no if you’re trying to attract him! But sling on something in turquoise and men say they expect you to be fun and lively. 

It’s good to remember that it’s fantastic to wear a killer outfit but make sure you’re comfortable in it. It’s not a good look if you can’t balance on your new heels that are sky high. Feeling self-conscious as you wobble with every step all evening definitely takes away from your confidence. 

Or you might love that slinky new cocktail dress but if the skinny straps keep slipping off your shoulders, you’ll be yanking them up all night. 

So make sure while you work that outfit, it’s working for you. 

Finally, as it’s Christmas you can get away with wearing more OTT things than you might normally. Go out with a confident attitude and it’ll have positive impact on you date.

Happy dating! 

For more dating advice – covering everything from first dates to online dating – see Dr Pam’s brand-new book: THE LAWS OF SISTERHOOD – The girlfriends’ guide to successful dating and finding the one is out now: Buy your dating bible here 

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