Which colours attract men

Get Your Colours Right for Dating Success By our self-help expert and dating coach Dr Pam Spurr In my new book on dating I’ve covered how the colours you wear say so much about your personality when you go on a date. Of course every fashionista knows how colour can make a killer impact, but for the rest of us it can be a mystery.  We know the basics like if you want someone to notice you then definitely wear red. But something like black can be either sexy and sensual or conservative. In my new dating guide I mention how when certain colours work better – or worse – at creating attraction and sexual chemistry. So don’t forget you definitely… Read More →

Zero Libido?

I’m Too Young to Lose Sexual Desire By our self-help expert and dating coach Dr Pam Spurr In interviews for my new dating guide I spoke to loads of singles about dating and relationships. I was surprised how many singles in their 20s and early 30s struggled with sexual desire. Normally we assume women struggle with desire a bit later in life when they’re juggling careers, mortgages, children and might be in a relationship that’s gone a bit stale. Many younger women felt embarrassed to admit it. But it gave me the opportunity mention the following key ‘life levels’ for them to think about. Check these out and discover what might play into your lack of sexual desire: YOU AND HIM… Read More →

Signs he’s a commitment phobe

Seven signs he has commitment issues By our self-help expert and dating coach Dr Pam Spurr You’re really into him, things are going well but they haven’t really progressed. You sense he’s holding back but it’s hard to say why. In interviews for my new dating guide THE LAWS OF SISTERHOOD – I heard lots of reasons why guys won’t take it to the next level. From he went through a messy breakup and swore off relationships – to his father had commitment issues. That meant his father was emotionally distant and has left your man finding it hard to get close to you.  The problem is many men with commitment issues don’t let on they don’t want to take… Read More →

That time of the month

So last week was awesome. I hit a 100 kg squats for reps, deadlifts were feeling awesome and even my benching wasn’t as horrific as it normally is, thinks were looking good! So  this week I have to see how heavy I can lift on all three lifts, it didn’t go well!! What was I doing wrong? Why were my hips so freaking sore? Why did I want to go home and cry?! Was I having a nervous breakdown???? No!!! Turns out mother nature was at work and ruining my training by inflicting a period on me! I felt horrifically weak, everything seemed tedious and very emotional and I seemed to have ballooned into an exact replica of the little… Read More →

I lap danced & he laughed!

Our love and sex expert Dr’s Pam Spurr tackles your dilemmas. Dear Dr. Pam, I’ve been going out with my boyfriend for a year and I wanted to surprise him. My local pub was offering lap-dancing classes so I took a class and practiced a routine. It was so much fun! Once I was feeling confident I decided to surprise him. I set the scene in my flat and put on my sexiest outfit. When he came over I turned down the lights and told him I had a show for him. I actually felt nervous but I was determined to do it. When I started he began to giggle. Then he couldn’t stop giggling. I ended up feeling a complete idiot. We had a big row and… Read More →

Dr Pam:I can’t please him!

Dear Dr Pam, Hello I have been with my boyfriend for a year. He has been doing all the work in the bed. When I try to do some of it and get on top of him he says it is uncomfortable. I want to please him but I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. Can you help me???? Dear “What am I doing wrong”,   Okay, let’s get something straight – enough of the “doing something wrong” attitude. One easy route to stress in the bedroom is to believe there are ‘right’ and ‘wrong’ ways of doing things. Start thinking in terms of what works for you both – what works is the key word.   Even then, what works… Read More →

The Emotional Eaters Diet

Understand Your Personality Better and Conquer Your Emotional Eating Dr Pam Spurr, self-help expert, MIW life coach and agony aunt, and author of The Emotional Eater’s Diet helps you come to grips with impulsive leading. Who hasn’t headed for the biscuit tin when they’re upset? I know I have! But when it comes to comfort food and emotional eating some personality traits play into how much we binge on comfort food when we’re emotionally hurt or stressed-out. In my latest book I highlight a few key traits but one in particular is impulsivity. Most people can believe impulsive at times. But this personality trait can run from that very impulsive person – think of your friend who always jumps into things… Read More →

Frightfully good fashion

With Halloween just around the corner, there will be plenty of you planning your entrance to halloween parties with a daring costume. If you have not yet found inspiration, or have a last minute invite to a great party, you don’t want to miss out because of the ‘I dont know what to wear dilemma’. Possibly some of you will be thinking ‘how far should I actually go with a costume’?.  You dont after all want to be embarressed, showing up to a halloween party, with the scenario where you are the only person in the room in a costume, let alone, in a cat woman costume (yes this is my story, this happened). The utterley cringe moment, where you… Read More →

Dr Pam: Can you overuse a vibrator?

Hi Pam, I’m a single lady and I see a few guys now and then but I’m not desperate for a relationship or anything unless the right guy comes along. I never really used to pleasure myself much but a month or so ago I invested in my first vibrator. I’m now experiencing Charlotte from Sex And The City-syndrome and can’t seem to put the thing down! I don’t use it for extended time but it’s the frequency that concerns me. I use it pretty much every day – is that too much? Do you think this is a novelty obsession which will wear off? Just call me Cassie Dear “good vibrations”, I’m so glad you got in touch because… Read More →

Dr Pam: Breaking up is hard to do!

Dear Dr Pam, I’ve just turned 30 and haven’t had a proper relationship for three years now. For the past three or four months I’ve been seeing a guy I’d known for about a year. I know he really likes me but I don’t feel like I can give him any more than what I’m already giving him. I see him about once a week, we sleep together, I don’t text or call him much. I know he wants more and it’s not right to string him along. I do like him, I enjoy the sense of companionship, but I really am not interested in having a relationship with him. This whole situation has kind of snowballed and now I… Read More →